Hello Love and Life,
My name is Amina, I am 24 years old I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now. Whenever he compliments me on something he would use the sentence: "the man who would get married to me will be very lucky to have me as a wife." Last week I cooked and he said the same thing. I could not take it any longer so I had to ask him if he has no plan of marrying me like; what's the meaning of what he always says. He told me that I am not a wife material for him. For 5 years we have been dating we have been leaving together, I have been doing the cooking, house chores, washing, in fact practically everything a wife does. His mom knows me and I had to call his mum and told her what her son said. She came to talk to him but he had no good reason to give and I had to leave his house. I went to my best friend's house now and found out that he has been dating my friend online. I don't blame my friend because I haven't introduced her to him before now. My friend wants to marry my boyfriend of 5 years, I am heartbroken, what do I do now?
It is sad for me to write this, but I think your supposed boyfriend has just “friend zoned" you. But I still do not understand how you stayed with a guy for five years and did not detect that he did not really like or consider you to be a wife material. That's quite appalling on your part.
Thankfully, you are not fighting with your friend as it's mostly the case in situations like this. I commend you for being truthful in stating that your friend did not know that there is an existing relationship between you and boyfriend. Now, if your so-called man has said you are not fit enough to be his wife, then just leave him for good. It's not going to be easy obviously, especially after all you have done for him, but will it not better for you to have peace in your matrimonial home than to be battered with series of complaints, allegations and eventual infidelity by your husband?
So, I sincerely advise you to leave him alone for your friend and this time, sensibly get yourself hooked up with a guy that will appreciate you.
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