Cougars (not the animal) are characterised by a lot of things aside the sexual relationship with younger men. Reason being that they enjoy the benefits that come with the affairs. Little wonder some cougars love to maintain a relationship for a long time.
Let’s digress for a second, shall we? Wizkid and Tiwa Savage’s rumoured relationship is a typical example but we have no proof except for pictures and #Fever video that have got everyone talking.
But then, why would an older woman want to date or have sexual relationship with a younger guy?
Below are some of the deeper reasons to the above question.
1) Being in charge
An older woman will have more relationship experience than her young lover. This makes the woman feel more capable of handling the ups and downs of a relationship. She will derive pleasure in knowing that she is in charge of the relationship.
A young guy may also not mind the woman taking charge in the relationship as long as her behavior does not come across as annoying or nagging. This is a win-win situation for the younger man and the older woman.
Also, a woman in her 30’s or 40’s could be married but living separately, divorced, or never married but been in and out of many relationships. In either of these situations, the woman is likely to have had much more experience in the bedroom than her toy boy lover which will likely make her feel in charge.
2) Men of their age may not be as attractive and handsome
Age is not kind to anyone. Wrinkles and beer bellies are just some of the obvious signs of ageing which add years to a man’s look. A woman may date a younger man if she feels that men of her age are not as attractive or handsome any more.
This applies especially to women who have not allowed the years take toll on their bodies by being motivated to work out and stay fit. They may feel that they are compromising by going out with a man who is their age mate, but looks at least a decade older. She would rather date a man who is a decade younger but looks almost her age.
3) To get the feeling of being young and youthful again
When a woman dates a younger guy, she is exposed to a life that she would have virtually forgotten about. The playful romance, romantic outings and youthful love can make her feel like she is reliving her twenties.
The presence of a younger man will also keep a woman updated with the latest trends, helping her become trendier. She will get to keep up with the latest in music, movies, fashion and media something which she never had a chance while being burdened by the responsibilities of marriage, children and work.
Dating a younger guy can also spice things up in the bedroom. A woman who has just stepped out of a loveless marriage may feel the need to get the groove back in the bedroom.
4) Younger guys are less serious and more fun
Single men in their thirties and forties can be burdened by many responsibilities. Payments, maintenance payments, pressure at work, credit card debts and children from previous relationship are just some of the things that take the fun out of an older single man’s approach to life.
In comparison, men in their twenties have fewer things to worry about. This makes them more fun-loving and spontaneous. Younger men will be willing to go out for that midnight clubbing without worrying about an early morning the next day or they will happily party on a weekday without fussing about a hangover on the next.
A younger man will also be relatively less occupied, making him readily available for impromptu dates.
All these things make a relationship with a younger man a lot less serious and a lot more fun.
5) To feed the ego and self-esteem: Proving that she still looks attractive
An older woman may look forward to dating a younger man to passively feed her ego and self-esteem. Knowing that she can easily attract a guy many years younger to her will make her feel more beautiful.
A woman in her late thirties or forties will obviously feel smitten when a man who is a decade younger compliments her for her looks. It will make her forget the age difference because she will feel like the prettiest woman in the world when a younger man finds her attractive.