Some women struggle to enjoy sex. Its a common issue and also a complicated one because the reasons for these feelings can vary widely from one woman to another and man to another. It can be a physical issue, a psychological issue, or both. And it can make women and their partners feel isolated or less connected, so its important to address these issues.
Here are 5 reasons why you are not enjoying sex.
- Lack of love
Love is the greatest aphrodisiac; when you are in love with someone, you find everything about them sexy, you surrender to pleasure. Sex is more than getting to the climax, it’s an act of intimacy, it’s also about the journey that leads to the climax and the reason why the climax is special. That’s why you should marry the one you are in love with.
2. Low Libido
Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSSD) Women who suffer from female sexual arousal disorder always have low libido. This condition is characterized by the kind of disinterest in sex that you describe.
Women with this condition are not afraid of sexual intimacy but they suffer from a deficiency or absence of sexual desire.
Hormonal deficiency disease, disease, anti-depressant drugs can be linked to this condition which can affect sexual desire and function of some women or even men sometimes.
Sex is like a graceful dance, you will not enjoy it if you are rigid and have rules and fixed patterns. Remember it’s not just about you getting pleasure your way, your partner has desires too. He or she could be taking you to pleasures unknown if only you relax, let loose, be open and free.
- Hygiene concerns
Sex sometimes can get sensually messy. Yes, your fluids mix, tongues collide, sheets get wet. If you’re busy being made love to but still playing your neat freak role you will not enjoy sex. In fact, you will find yourself repelling your spouse, you don”t want to lick your partner, don’t want the tongue on you, you’ll be scared of fluids mixing, and worse off, especially for women, when he climaxes you push him aside and want to run to take a shower. Your partner can tell when you wear disgusted eyes.
- Low self esteem
How you view yourself dictates how you approach sex. If you have a low self esteem, if you are self-conscious about your body, if you don’t feel attractive, if you don’t see yourself as sexy; you will not enjoy sex. Work on your self image to make love with confidence. Love your body, dress your body well, keep fit and make sure you don’t insult or mock your partner’s body.