Knowing what you want out of a relationship is important just as knowing your self-worth. If you constantly feel disappointed in your relationships, you might want to check your behaviour or attitude as the problem could be that you expect too much from your partner or are overly demanding.
It’s still important to have ideas of what you want from a relationship but if you’re someone who is always having troubles in relationships, you might want to pay attention to the following signs.
This isn’t necessarily because your standards are too high, but it’s worth looking at. If you are more aware of their flaws than their virtues or you find yourself picking at little things like their outfit or the car they drive or you think they are almost good enough, but not quite. If so, it definitely sounds like your expectations are unrealistic.
If you or your partner are constantly feeling inadequate, it’s a sign that your expectations are not aligned with reality. When one or both partners feel like they’re ‘never good enough’ or are walking on egg shells, this creates a constant stressful, anxious energy within the relationship when the partners cannot feel free to be themselves. Over time, both partners may find themselves distancing or avoiding each other, or even seeking other places to feel accepted.