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‘Help, My Wife Cant Stop Masturbating’

Hello counsellor,

My wife has been giving me serious cause for concern. She is becoming a sex addict.
We have a great sex life as far as I’m concerned. We have mind-blowing sex regularly which she climaxes.
But recently I’ve found out she masturbates. This could happen as much as three times during the day and we still have sex at night. I caught her last week while she was using a dildo in the bathroom. The previous day it was a vibrator she was using while I excused myself to use the toilet. Please, I’m getting really worried.
What will happen if I’m not around to satisfy her? I’m certain she could make do with the houseboy.
I’m really worried about this.

 

Hello Anonymous Writer,

I understand your complaints and they are valid, but I do not think you should push yourself overboard. After all, you adduced that you and madam enjoy your time in the other room and that she even climaxes- a feat that all women crave for but only few are really able to enjoy such heightened pleasure.

However, there are some sex-addicted ladies who even after squirting and having the time of their lives, they still resort to fondling with sex toys. There lies a bit of the question mark.

I will advise that you have an interesting and wild erotic (not brutal physical) conversation with her. It is also important that you are not all formal in your chat with her like a police officer. Add some lewd words and use erotic instances in order to make the chat a fun one.

I am quite sure that you did not purchase the sex toys for her; so that by inquiring why she bought them. Also ask if she truthfully feels satisfied after every session on bed. The reason I asked this is because there are times that women do fake climax situation so that they can dismiss the guy riding them.

So, based on the replies that she gives you, you will know if you have truly been performing your duties or not. If she says she’s been enjoying sex, then you would have to delicately put across your concerns about her seemingly sexual addiction and encourage her to gradually give up the toys and rely solely on the “magic stick”. Do not expect she will give up easily, but with time she will adapt.

But if its that she does not have fun with you on bed, then you have to find out where you have been missing it. It could either be during the foreplay or lack of variety of sexual positions or others. Just inquire from her and talk through things together as a couple so that the next time you both get on that bed, it is going to be a banger which she would so love much, to the extent that she would forget her toys.

Yours, 

GCN

 

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