Hello Love and Life, my name is Jessy. I’m a final year student of a private university in Nigeria. I just discovered I’m pregnant but I don’t know who the father is.
I had sex with my younger brother’s private tutor last Friday before having sex with my best friend on Sunday. They both ejaculated inside me so I’m confused.
I know what I did was wrong but it just happened too fast for me. My brother was running an errand when his tutor came around, leaving us both in the sitting room. I’ve always liked him and he knew so we had a quick one before my brother came back.
On Sunday, I went to my friend’s place in the evening and one thing led to another and we had sex too.
I really do not know what to do. I’m afraid of getting an abortion. I’ve not told either of them, I’m so ashamed of myself. Please help me.
I have to say that you were extremely careless in your actions. First of all, it was immoral for you to have engaged in pre-marital sex. Then, you decided to have unprotected sex not with one but two persons. That’s scandalous. You only have yourself to blame for your current predicament.
As for the identity of your unborn child’s father, what I can categorically tell you is that neither of the men you slept with recently can be held responsible. The semen they both ejaculated will take a number of days to circulate around your vagina before the end product manifests.
This means that you have purportedly had sex before meeting the two men in the other room over the weekend. You must, therefore, recall whom you had sexual encounters with to know the father of your unborn child.
As to regards abortion, I always advice ladies never to abort babies, except in certified grave medical conditions. Ask yourself this important question: if your mother had killed the foetus growing in her, will you be alive today?
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