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‘My Wife Compares My Sexual Performance To Her Ex-boyfriends’

Hello Counsellor,

I won’t like to mention my name because of my friends and family.

My wife and I have been married for close to six years now. We have no child, so we have been forced to go for many tests and prayers. All of them have said nothing is wrong with us.

Recently I noticed my wife’s insatiable urge for sex. I work a 9 to 5 job, we live in Lagos and there is less time for sex except on weekends.

The last time we had sex, she backed me and started murmuring to herself that her former boyfriends are way better than I am in bed.

I was hurt and confronted her and she confessed to my face that she misses sex from her boyfriends. I have been having weird thoughts since then.

Please what can I do?


Hello Anonymous Writer,

First of all, I commiserate with you and your wife over your inability to have children. I know you both are hurting over this development but hopefully, a cry of joy will soon be heard in your home.

But back to the matter. For you to win the confidence of your wife in the other room, you simply have to create more time for sex. You both cannot just get under the sheets on weekends alone. The infrequent sex is not helping to form that intimate bond between you both, and that is partly why your wife is remembering her pre-marital escapades.

More importantly, you need to improve and liven the atmosphere when you both have sex. Having been married for six years, lovemaking may now look like a routine activity without any form of adventure. You, as the man, have got to be more daring on the bed. Seize the initiative by creating a special environment in the room through the use of flavoured candles to give the room an erotic scent.

Also, ensure you both have and enjoy quality foreplay. It can be up to 10 minutes long, just play long to ferociously arouse her desire for sex.

Lastly, try new sex styles. Engaging in the same styles for six years is quite boring, and I am sure you will agree to that. New sex styles are created every day, just search online to find out the latest ones and implement during action time. Be a little wild with her on the bed and make sure she has the time of her life.

I am very sure that by the time you begin to implement these pieces of advice, your wife will scream your name beyond your wildest imagination and will always demand for more.



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